Who is Monique de Kermadec ?
Monique de Kermadec is a clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst. As a specialist of giftedness in both children and adults, she helps patients better define their talents and express their full potential. She has worked with over 8 000 families to date.
Over the past few years, Monique de Kermadec has appeared in many interviews (in magazines, on radio or television), organised two full-day workshops in Paris uniting parents and specialists, and taken part in numerous conferences and symposiums, in France and abroad.
Her first book, Pour que mon enfant réussisse was published in late 2010. Her second, L'adulte surdoué, apprendre à faire simple quand on est compliqué in late 2011. Practical and didactical, her books are devised to answer common questions and provide solid theoretical foundations that foster personal thought.
Her axioms, « parents are a gifted child's best allies », « a child is more than an IQ » and « it is never too late to succeed » permeate her writings and research, and guide her work with families, specialists (speech therapists, paediatricians, etc.), teachers and schools.
After publishing the first email newsletter dedicated to parents of gifted children, as early as 2001, she is now mediating a Facebook page through which she encourages parents and specialists alike to share practical tips and everyday experiences.
Monique de Kermadec is a member of the French Psychoanalytical Association, of the World Council for Gifted Children, of the American Psychological Association, and of the European Professional Women’s Network.
Giftedness in children
A child’s talents are the source of much joy and happiness. They can also be the cause of uncertainties and questions on how to best help, support and encourage a child who does not always think like his classmates, learns faster and constantly seeks out new things to learn.
Monique de Kermadec believes that parents are the gifted child’s best allies. Without discounting the key role of teachers and specialists, the parent remains the common thread, the child’s ultimate reference whenever doubts or difficulties arise. He is also the central figure in the child’s support network all the way through adulthood, both in school and at play.
IQ tests (WPPSI, WISC, WAIS) are often the starting point from which the best support strategies can be decided upon, and provide a proven time-tested statistical framework. Because a child is much more than an IQ, it will then be necessary to evaluate their results in the light of his personal background so that a global support programme can be established, in which he can actively participate.
Because a child’s gifts may sometimes prove difficult to quantify, it is important to keep in mind the many areas in which they can express themselves: studies, of course, but also the arts, sport or, quite simply, a great ease in interacting meaningfully with others. To the IQ, the Intelligence Quotient, specialists now add the EQ or emotional quotient, which helps explore these essential and yet little-known areas of success and self-expression.
One often hears about the downsides of giftedness: trouble in school, difficulties in relating to others, frustration… Monique de Kermadec firmly believes it is possible to be gifted and happy. To that end, it is essential to ask the right questions and uncover the right answers whenever a child goes through the key transitions of early life.
Ad-hoc appointments can of course round up this programme if necessary, to help families solve the challenges that comes and go during childhood and adolescence. To this end, informal interviews will effectively complete the testing sessions.
Giftedness in adults
Gifted children grow into gifted adults. This simple observation as well as meetings with former patients have encouraged Monique de Kermadec to research giftedness in adults. Studies, as well as her personal experience, prove there is no « better » age to succeed or seek personal answers to life’s questions. As life expectancy grows and companies hire older and more experienced freelance consultants, the question of giftedness in adults is turning into a key social issue.
Adults often ask to participate in IQ tests as well, and the WAIS scale provides just such a grading tool, adapted to an adult’s age and life circumstances. Nevertheless, success in adults is not necessarily linked to professional success, as there exists a wide variety of personal factors such as family life and relationships or even a desire to leave one’s mark on society and history…
Monique de Kermadec offers workshops and sessions tailored to the specific needs and questions of adults to help them better understand their expectations and desires. Once these ground questions clearly answered, they will be empowered to better their lives in a way that is personally meaningful: changing careers, going back to school, getting into new hobbies and activities, possibilities are nearly endless…
Without necessarily requiring a long-term undertaking, a few short, focused sessions with a therapist will help adults better uncover their personal and unconscious expectations, thereby giving worth and meaning to their personal growth. This individual and personal study will, of course, be complemented by the many tools that now help professionals grow their networks and careers.
Gifted children sometimes have trouble making the leap into adulthood and leaving the clearly defined world of school. This break between studies, with their obvious goals and periodic status checks, and the more nebulous challenges of a career can lead to uncertainties and anxiety. Working with a specialist can facilitate this transition and help young adults build strong foundations for their burgeoning careers.
« It is never too late to succeed ». A popular axiom if there ever was one, but also the source of much frustration for gifted adults who are intuitively aware of their potential but lack the tools and techniques to use their talents to their fullest potential.
There is no shortage of gifted adults, and few of them have found their path, be it that of personal or professional success. Over the years, Monique de Kermadec has met many such patients in search of better and more satisfying answers to life's pressing questions.
From kindergarden to university, children are at the receiving end of many a challenge in life — and so are their parents! Indeed, despite their unconditional love and desire to do best in everything, they cannot be expected to have all the answers to the many questions that arise as a child progresses from infancy to adulthood.
Providing answers, in a straightforward and practical way, free from jargon and judgement calls, such is the aim of this book, designed to support parents throughout their journey. It covers general studies, of course, but also the difficulties that can surround giftedness.
Success isn’t all about high grades, and this book covers practical topics close to a family’s heart such as outings and hobbies, homework or even video games. It provides just enough theoretical background to empower parents to effectively try out and apply its bevy of practical tips and pointers.
Getting a good start in life means, above all, finding one’s true self and laying solid foundations for the future. Whatever a child’s talents and passions may be, there is always a path in life that provides the nurturing and encouragement they deserve. And who better than parents to help uncover and invest it?
Monique de Kermadec has been featured in many broadcasts, articles and interviews throughout the years. The most prominent are:
100% Mag, 7 Milliards de Voisins, Africa N°1, Atlantico, AuFeminin.com, BFM, Ça m’Intéresse, Direct 8, Doctissimo, Europe 1, Famili, Famille et Éducation, Femme d’Aujourd’hui, Femme Actuelle, Figaro Madame, France Info, Info Bébés, L’Alsace, L’École des Parents, L’Est Républicain…
La Montagne, La Tribune de Genève, La Vie, Ladies Room, Le Courrier Suisse, Les Echos, Le Figaro, Le Journal de Belfort, Le Journal du Dimanche, Le Monde, Le Parisien, Le Progrès, M6 TV, Marianne, Marie France, Nice Matin, Noun, Ouest France, Parents, Parents d’Ados, Psychoenfants, Psychologie.com, Radio Canada, Radio Enghien-les-Bains, Radio Notre-Dame, Radio Shalom, Radio Sud, Radio Suisse Romande, RCF, RCJ, RFI, RTL, Télématin, Télérama, Téléstar, Terra Femina, TLM, Tout pour les Femmes, Version Fémina.